>> I have been in touch with Lotus who state that everyplace needs it's own wap server for this to work ... is this correct?
Domino Everyplace installs on a Domino server and essentially turns the Domino server into a WAP server. There's little reason not to simply load DE on top of your existing iNotes server.
You DO, however, have to have a fully-qualified domain name for the box that the browser on the devices to point at.
The other option is to make a few small alterations to your iNotes template and allow users to access iNotes directly from their handheld devices. Info on that here:
Hope that helps.